Friend or Foe

It took several years to realize why friendships or relationships don’t last or seem to suddenly no longer fit. Going forward I’ll use friendships as an interchangeable reference to relationships as well.  More often than not you hear “We have so much in common” Having something in common encourages an instant attraction or bond between two people. However, having things in common can have an expiration date. What if, suddenly you no longer like the thing that bonded you two in the first place? Or what if you realize yes we have the same career aspirations, yes we know some of the same people, yes we want similar end results but the manner in which one person is willing to go about achieving it, is enough to mask the common interest all together.

I believe Friendships must be established upon a mutual respect, morals and work ethic. If I respect your grind and you respect mine there is now a partnership a shared desire to see the other succeed. We want each other to win, we don’t deem each other as ‘deserving’. Instead we believe in God’s promises that the righteous will not be forsaken and we trust that it’s a matter of time before God moves in the other person’s life. We require each other to BE our purposed selves.

You guys ever have the person who values you when they don’t think you’re a threat to them?
Or the friend that calls you with the temperature calls to see what’s going on in your world but will never be a resource toward your success?
Or the friend,who only wants to be bothered with you when you can help them? 
Or the friend, that will help you when your down but the second you begin to rise there is a problem? You see they liked you better when you needed them or when they thought for sure they would rise before you because you were ‘lower’ than them?
Or the friend that wants to be supportive but just doesn’t know how to kill their jealousy demon
Or the friend that calls you first to party but somehow ‘meant’ to send you the text about that job but somehow ‘forgot’
Or finally the friend that has to be the center of attention and can barely muster up a measly hello if you wear something that they didn’t know you had O_o

Listen, not every friendship will feel mutually beneficial. Sometimes your God given purpose is to be the giver but in those relationships, you must understand your assignment, and that it will have an expiration date.  In short, think about the promises God has made you, Plans to prosper you, to not harm you, to make your enemies your foot stool, to pour out overflow… I mean I could go on and on. If HE promised all these things, than you must expect these situations to present themselves. There will be a time when you have enemies and it’s so God can prove his promises. Know when someone is a lesson and when someone is a blessing and don’t try to turn a lesson into a blessing. Be obedient to Gods promises. If he promised you penthouse, yet your set on staying on the 2ndfl because you want to be the coolest person at the party, or because your intimidated by what the next level will bring, or because you don’t want your ‘friends’ to think you deserted them than know that you are forfeiting YOUR APPOINTED TIME. 

Thanks for reading

Be blessed!  

"The proof is in the sacrifice"



  1. Nikki great the bit where someone s either a lesson or a blessing. I have learnt a lot though this post. God bless .


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